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September 14, 2022September 14, 2022

Creating a Blueprint for your Life

To truly have an inspired life, one has to have a philosophy about life. We cannot effectively decide about our own lives if we do not have at least an idea of what we want our lives to be about. We must get clear on what the principles are that we are going to apply to our lives. One has to decide what direction you want your life to take.

Your personal philosophy combine your values and beliefs into a workable blueprint for your life.

How to develop a powerful personal philosophy

To start developing a powerful philosophy for an inspired life, you have to ask yourself the following questions:

What did I decide about life so far?
Which ones of these decisions can I let go of or change?
Which new decisions can I make to replace them?
What thinking habits do I need to master to fit my new decisions?

Take some time and really ponder these questions. What do you want your life to be about? What do you not want in your life anymore? Can you think about life differently? What would you like to believe about your life and your future?

Once you have clarity on your worldview, you can continue to build on your new philosophy and strengthen your decisions by:

Learning from your experiences and those of others
Learning from other people’s success and failure
Capitalising on the power of positive influences
Becoming a good listener and observer
Reading good books
Keeping a personal journal
Being disciplined
Being diligent

REMEMBER:

A personal philosophy is like setting the sail on a boat:

“When the wind change, we must change.”

“It’s not what happens that matters…; it’s what we do with what happens, that matters”. – Jim Rohn

The essential philosophical elements of one’s personal life philosophy are centered on beliefs, concepts or ideas, and attitudes. To be straightforward, your philosophy answers the question: “What is your approach to living your life?”

Putting your approach into philosophical terms may seem unnecessary, too elementary or just an academic exercise. Yet, it is an indispensable way to make better choices and lead a more inspired life.

But don’t take life and your life philosophy too seriously. Do not get bogged down in the small details. Do not fret for days. Just do it! We always have the power to make new decisions, change things up and revamp. Get yourself a nice journal, write a plan for your life and keep on revising and amending as you go. You will be amazed at what wisdom and understanding come from just taking a bit of time to think about your life. And if you really get inspired and really want to do this properly, head over to the following website:

https://www.udemy.com/course/your-happiness-and-inspiration-toolkit-for-life

There you will find my course: Your Happiness and Inspiration Toolkit for Life” It teaches you exactly how to go about fashioning for yourself a beautiful life.

August 10, 2022August 10, 2022

On becoming a swan

I am a woman, just like you. A woman with dreams and aspirations, with goals and to-do lists to accomplish those goals. I want to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous. Just like you!

Sometimes I am also afraid, scared to take risks, and scared of rejection and disappointment. I worry about what people will think! I also messed up in my life. Some of those messes I will never be able to fix.

For most of my life, I felt like a DUD, (Damned Ugly Duckling)!

As a duckling, I did not fit in in the farm yard. Not in the school cliques, not in the hockey team. Not at the office or in the boardroom.

As a duckling in the farmyard of life, I was bullied too! I had to do things I did not really want to do. I had to be who I was not! …. I so had enough of “Duckie do this!”, “Duckie do that”, “Duckie, you shouldn’t”, Duckie, you have to…” I tried to duck out of it….. Many times I just wanted to shout “Duck off!”

I came to a place where I looked in the mirror like the ugly duckling looked at her reflection in the water of the pond, and I hated what I saw.

Then… one day… someone came to my aid and said: “Duckie, you are much more than you have become…” She said: “Duckie, I believe in you, you can do this!” The words “Duckie, the world is your oyster!“ was such an inspiration to me!

So, I put my big girl pants on and went on a journey! Not a journey out into the world, but a journey inward.

My wish for you is that you will go on this journey. Choose the road less traveled by. And go it alone. No baggage, no worries, no expectation!

On this journey you will discover that there are two important days in one’s life… the day you are born, and the day you find out why you were born. I figured out that my purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand! I can become the swan I am destined to be. I am not a DUD, not a heap of tangled feathers in the dirt.

But times of transformation are uncomfortable, and yuk – just like the time when the ugly ducking spend that dark and dreary winter hidden away in a makeshift shelter in the reeds. In those dark times, we work on our belief systems. We mend our relationships. We learn to stop sabotaging our success. We grow our confidence. We watch our language. We speak life over ourselves. We start to understand that we are enough!

We are more than the numbers on the scale! We are more than the price tag on our clothes. I learned that I was more than the mark on my math test and much, much more than the number of likes I got on Facebook.

As we go through trials and tribulations, we realize good things about ourselves. These realizations create ripples in the pond…it makes us expand our consciousness. And one day, when we look again… we are no longer ugly ducklings.

Dear one, you are a …. SWAN! Significant Woman, Acting Now! You do not have to play small in the world just to make sure others do not feel uncomfortable around you!

All we need to do is to remember that “being hatched in a duck’s nest, in a farm yard, is of no consequence to a woman if she is hatched from a swan’s egg!!”

Inside of you is a force, that knows that it knows, that it knows that you are nature’s greatest miracle. Accept the challenge to share your wisdom with all those searching for a wise, comforting voice…. I salute each one of you!

_{Source: Some of my phrases are reworked from much-loved books such as “The greatest salesman in the world” – Og Mandino.}

April 20, 2022April 20, 2022

You are strong enough to persevere

One of my favourite authors of all times, Jim Rohn, wrote a very special book called ”The greatest Salesman in the world”. What makes this book special is that there are universal lessons and reminders built into an ancient story. In this book, the main character received a gift of ten scrolls containing life lessons. On one of the scrolls is written: “I will persist until I succeed”. In other words, I will hang on and persevere until I am successful. When the going gets tough, one of the scrolls reminds the recipient of the scrolls that ”This too shall pass”. No matter how tough it gets, no matter how dark the night, the sun will always rise again, if you can just hang on a little bit longer, take one more step, keep on moving because “Never will you know how close success lies, unless you turn the corner”.

Perseverance means to persist, to keep on keeping on, and sticking to your plan, no matter what happens. And keeping on going is tough sometimes. I get it! It is hard work to keep on digging and digging in a back-breaking fashion, hoping to strike it lucky and maybe find some diamonds. But digging and digging with no result can bring one to a place where you just want to give up! We all feel like that sometimes.! But you know the story of the person who gave up and stopped digging half a meter from where the diamonds were. He came so close, yet it was so far, he walked away with nothing. What if he just persevered for a little while longer, took one more step, yielded his spade one more time..?

Here is what you can do in those “Oh! What is the use?” –times. Here is what you can remind yourself in those “I just cannot go on any more” –times:

1. You overcame tough times before. You can do it again.

The current rough patch might not feel like anything you have worked through before. But you have successfully overcome the last difficult situation. And if you think back to that time, you will remember that perhaps you were worried that you might not have what it takes to overcome the obstacle… and then you did! So this time around, remember that you proved yourself wrong the previous time, you will probably prove yourself wrong again, because you are much stronger than you think.

2. It won’t feel this bad forever

“This too shall pass” says Jim Rohn. We are not very good at predicting our feelings and actions (or the future, for that matter) when we are in the thick of a difficult situation. In fact, in the midst of a crisis, we think that we will always feel the way we do now,… awful! But this is not true! Yes! It might be awful now but it will never be awful for as long as, and as much as we think it will. So no matter how bad you feel right now, know that you will not feel this way forever.

3. You are not your problems

Don’t let your circumstances determine who or what you are. You are not your problems. You are not your enemies, your job status, or bank account or the really messy divorce or anything else that has ever happened to you. Who you are is far beyond any external situations and circumstances or experiences.

To get out of the funk:

Accept that things will change – keep looking on the bright side, remain hopeful.
Ask for help if you need to. Do not keep struggling on your own. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness.
Stay positive and laugh as often as you can, even if you have to laugh at yourself, sometimes!
Focus on things that make you happy. Read a book, go for a walk, run yourself a nice bubble bath.
Above all, do not fall in the trap of letting your past define your future. Keep moving forward.

This too shall pass… never do you know how close success lies, until you turn the corner. A bright new day awaits on the other side of darkness.

April 4, 2022April 4, 2022

About Self-Esteem

“Of all the judgments we pass in life,
none is as important as
the ones we pass on ourselves”.
Dr. Nataniel Branden

Self-esteem shows exactly how somebody feels about their own value as a person. It is all about how much you think you are worth as a person.
This is a subjective and emotional valuation you make about yourself. A persons self esteem shows whether they mostly feel like a victim or a winner.
Self esteem can be divided into three major categories:

People with low self-esteem think they are “below average”.
They do not believe in themselves, or trust in their own abilities. They do not think of
themselves as being “important” in the bigger scheme of things. When somebody suffers from low self esteem, it often shows up in poor relationships, addictions and depression and anxiety.

People who have high self-esteem find it easy to love and accept themselves.
They believe in themselves and their abilities. They have confidence in themselves no matter what challenge might be presented. People with high self esteem are able to be
authentic without the fear of being judged. They are ready to accept new challenges easily. They do not covet the approval of other people. It is a pleasure to be around people with high self esteem.

People with “inflated” self-esteem sometimes think of themselves as better
than other people. They almost always put themselves on a pedestal and other people in the pit. “Inflated” self esteem prevents people from forming meaningful and healthy relationships. Inflated self-esteemers want to be ahead of everybody else. Unfortunately, they do not mind hurting people to achieve the success they want.

When one has a healthy self esteem, you feel secure in your own being as well as in your environment. There is also a sense of belonging and a deep sense of purpose. Healthy self-esteemers believe that they are capable and that they make a valuable contribution to society. Having trust and being trusted is a key component of a healthy self esteem.
Much has been written about how to boost your confidence and how to boost your self esteem. Here are a few universal reminders about what to do to keep your self-esteem at a healthy level.

Use hopeful statements. Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement. Tell yourself: “I trust that my life is getting better. I deserve it!”
Forgive yourself. Remind yourself: “It does not matter what I have done or what I did not do, I am worthy of being loved.”
Avoid ‘should’ and ‘must’ statements. Start your sentences with “I would love to…” instead.
Focus on the positive. Ask yourself: “What is the blessing or lesson here?”
Consider what you’ve learned. Remember that your wisdom cannot be taken away from you.
Encourage yourself. As quirky as it may sound, look yourself in the mirror and say: “I am proud of you!” You are doing a good job! Always remember, self-esteem is an inside job. You have to do the pep-talks yourself!