It is the month of love…. It is the month to get your relationship working again!!
We have to ask:
Why do so many relationships fail?. Where has the romance gone? Many clever people examined the reasons why relationship fail. They looked at factors like negative emotions and bad communication. But it turns out that not failing is not the same as succeeding when it comes to relationships. Couples who experience a lot of negative interactions are more likely to separate in the first few years of marriage, but couples who don’t experience a lot of positive affect are likely to divorce farther down the road.
So how do you get your relationship working again?
There are FIVE simple things you can do:
Laugh and play together. Play isn’t just for kids. Playfully teasing your partner can bring you closer together. The key word here, however is, “playfully”. If not, the teasing will be counter productive. Couples who laugh often are happier in their relationships. One can also use humour and laughter to help work through a conflict situation. Just make sure that you use humour and laughter to assist and lighten the atmosphere without letting your partner feel ridiculed. Pick a comedy the next time you’re choosing a movie for date night. Give each other playful nicknames. Contrary to general belief, making time to just play puts a naughty twinkle in the eye. It does wonders to get your relationship working again
Try new things together. When you try new activities with your partner, make sure that the activities are novel and exciting. The novelty helps you and your partner create new memories and feel like a team as you try something new. All the excitement of doing something new will make you feel like your relationship is more exciting. Doing new things together help prevent boredom. It brings you closer to your partner. Excitement and variety makes you happier with your relationship, and more satisfied with life in general.
Doing new things does not have to be extreme like white water rafting or abseiling. Be sure to decide and agree on what you will try. I am scared of heights. If my partner forces me to go abseiling with him, it will do more damage to our relationship than good. It also does not have do be something expensive. Try new food. Be tourists in your own city for the day.
Develop gratitude. We all agree that it is important to do special things for your partner sometimes. It is also important to notice and acknowledge when your partner does special things for you. A little “thanks you” can go a long way. When people feel grateful to their partners, both partners end up feeling more connected with each other and more satisfied with the relationship. It’s also important to be grateful for who your partner is as a person. Develop a sense of gratitude for the character traits that make your partner who she is. When you find yourself being irritated instead of happy, imagine what your life would be like if you’d never met your partner. Imagine how you’d feel if something bad happened to them. I know this sounds a bit morbid, but it works!.
Celebrate triumphs. Supporting your partner through tough times is vital. And yes! You guessed it…it is just as important to be supportive when things go right. Couples who celebrate each other’s achievements and triumphs are more satisfied with their relationships. They experience fewer conflicts, have more fun together, and are happier in general. So the next time your partner gets a promotion, meets a new exercise goal, or just has a really great day, make sure to celebrate with them. That will get your relationship working again.. in no time at all!
However, it is not always moonshine and roses. Sometimes we can do everything in our power to try and make our relationship happier but it goes nowhere! Then you need to do the most important thing for your relationship. Such a time is where you have to delve deep and be brave. Sometimes you need to take some time out to take tally of what you have in each other and in the relationship! We occasionally forget why we are together in the first place. At such times we must come to a place where we can again appreciate and value ourselves, our partners and our relationship.
This is when you decide to be serious and get your relationship working again! Decide to
- laugh and play together while remembering what brought you together in the first place;
- Try new things together like going on a weekend couples retreat;
- Take time to “see” each other and be grateful for each other;
- Celebrate the triumphs of reconnecting with each other on a deeper level.
ACT NOW! Get your relationship working again!
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