About Self-Esteem

“Of all the judgments we pass in life,
none is as important as
the ones we pass on ourselves”.
Dr. Nataniel Branden

Self-esteem shows exactly how somebody feels about their own value as a person. It is all about how much you think you are worth as a person.
This is a subjective and emotional valuation you make about yourself. A persons self esteem shows whether they mostly feel like a victim or a winner.
Self esteem can be divided into three major categories:

People with low self-esteem think they are “below average”.
They do not believe in themselves, or trust in their own abilities. They do not think of
themselves as being “important” in the bigger scheme of things. When somebody suffers from low self esteem, it often shows up in poor relationships, addictions and depression and anxiety.

People who have high self-esteem find it easy to love and accept themselves.
They believe in themselves and their abilities. They have confidence in themselves no matter what challenge might be presented. People with high self esteem are able to be
authentic without the fear of being judged. They are ready to accept new challenges easily. They do not covet the approval of other people. It is a pleasure to be around people with high self esteem.

People with “inflated” self-esteem sometimes think of themselves as better
than other people. They almost always put themselves on a pedestal and other people in the pit. “Inflated” self esteem prevents people from forming meaningful and healthy relationships. Inflated self-esteemers want to be ahead of everybody else. Unfortunately, they do not mind hurting people to achieve the success they want.

When one has a healthy self esteem, you feel secure in your own being as well as in your environment. There is also a sense of belonging and a deep sense of purpose. Healthy self-esteemers believe that they are capable and that they make a valuable contribution to society. Having trust and being trusted is a key component of a healthy self esteem.
Much has been written about how to boost your confidence and how to boost your self esteem. Here are a few universal reminders about what to do to keep your self-esteem at a healthy level.

Use hopeful statements. Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement. Tell yourself: “I trust that my life is getting better. I deserve it!”
Forgive yourself. Remind yourself: “It does not matter what I have done or what I did not do, I am worthy of being loved.”
Avoid ‘should’ and ‘must’ statements. Start your sentences with “I would love to…” instead.
Focus on the positive. Ask yourself: “What is the blessing or lesson here?”
Consider what you’ve learned. Remember that your wisdom cannot be taken away from you.
Encourage yourself. As quirky as it may sound, look yourself in the mirror and say: “I am proud of you!” You are doing a good job! Always remember, self-esteem is an inside job. You have to do the pep-talks yourself!

March 23, 2022March 23, 2022

The Power of your Subconsious Mind

The book, “The Power of your Subconsious Mind” by Joseph Murphy, was given to me as a gift two weeks ago. The same book has been sitting on my shelf for quite a while. This weekend I decided to read it once again to see what new information I can gain from it.

I thought I would share some of my insights in the last few days:

You Receive Answers To Prayer Because Of your Mental Acceptance About What You Pray

Murphy says that it is not what you belief or what your religion is that makes your prayer effective. Rather, it is based on your ability and willingness to accept and actually claim for yourself what you pray. My understanding is that whatever you can accept on a conscious level has to be accepted by your subconscious mind as well.

Something else that really gripped me was the statement: “the subconscious mind is subject to the conscious mind.” That means that you can train your subconscious mind to believe what you can accept on a conscious level, in your conscious mind.

Your Subconscious Mind Has The Answer To All Your Problems

This statement speaks about the power and the wisdom of the subconscious mind. You don’t need to look outside for the answers you seek. You can look inside yourself, and pose questions to your subconscious mind.

The answers may not come immediately, but your mind is always working on problems you submit to it even when you’re doing other things. It will eventually present to you an answer.

Faith Is The Only Universal Healing Principle Operating Through Everybody

I believe what Joseph Murphy is referring to here is that faith is created by accessing and harnessing the power of our subconscious minds. Illness, physical ailments, and even traumatic experiences can be healed by repeatedly submitting thoughts of healing to our subconscious minds.

According to Murphy, there is no other way one can be healed accept through one’s subconscious mind. Faith is the universal healing principle. Of course, I don’t think he discounts the importance of medicine and other orthodox cures. I have to guess that he is referring to instances of (miraculous) healing that have occurred in so-called “healing services”, churches, or religious gatherings.

If A Prayer Is Answered, It Is Answered Scientifically

There seems to be a formula to ensure that prayers are answered. Murphy explains that “science” means knowledge that is coordinated, arranged and systematized. It is therefore safe to assume that we can cooperate with our subconscious minds to make sure that more of our prayers answered.

If anything, the entire book sheds light on how little attention and thought we give to our subconscious minds, and what fantastic tools they are in helping us achieve ends that we desire to see in our lives.

Don’t Compel Your Subconscious Mind To Accept Your Idea By Willpower

Although Murphy does talk about presenting positive thoughts and images to our subconscious minds, he is also quick to caution us that we can’t force things. Our willpower is limited, and it continues to decrease and diminish throughout the day. Can you imagine how tiring it would be to force yourself to think the same things and visualize the same images all day long?

I think the idea is that we can plant seeds (thoughts) and nurture them. It would not help if we are constantly uncovering the soil to see how our seeds are doing. We have to keep pulling the weeds and watering the seed. All of that may require a disciplined daily investment, but it shouldn’t take more than a couple of minutes. Once you have deposited a request, in the form of a prayer, to your subconscious mind, you must have faith that it would come to pass. “Checking the roots” all the time is a sign of no faith.

What goes on in your mind determines what your world look like.

Whether or not you subscribe to Murphy’s theology, I think this is something we can all agree on. What goes into your mind is hugely important. As the old adage goes: As a man thinketh, so is he!” If you choose poorly, you’ll assimilate bad attitudes, behaviors, and thoughts. Choose well, and you’ll begin to see positive changes within yourself.

What world do you want to live in? Have you thought about it? If you aren’t sure what you want to achieve in your lifetime, it makes it much harder to select input that will assist you on your journey. If you are fully in alignment with your objectives, choosing the right input becomes much easier.

In closing

I take notes with every book I read. To me, reading is not just reading but also applying what I read. I have described these ideas in my own language and from my own perspective. This is how I have understood it from my reading. The author may or may not agree with what I have said, but Joseph Murphy is no longer with us. Hopefully I have done a reasonably good job of explaining the insights that I uncovered in my reading.

If what you read here was of any interest to you, I would suggest you read the book for yourself.

You can also send me an email at at: info@heartcoretransformation.co.za if you have any questions. I’d be happy to share with you some other things I’ve learned from this book.

March 22, 2022March 23, 2022

Hypnotherapy explained!

There are many people who do not know what hypnotherapy is. Frankly, they are too scared to find out. They are scared there is some underworldly voo-doo who-do involved. Well, I decided to give you some information about this alternative healing modality.

There are many different types of hypnotherapy. I will discuss the types that I use in my own practice.

Clinical hypnotherapy

Clinical hypnotherapy is where a person receives hypnotherapy from a qualified hypnotherapist with a healthcare background. A clinical hypnotherapist is a licensed clinician who can use the practice to treat a range of medical and psychological conditions.

I use hypnotherapy to help people to lose weight and to stop smoking, for overcoming phobias and for building confidence and self-esteem.

Hypnotherapy and NLP

Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) explores the relationship between language, behaviour and excellence. It is a model used to identify and analyse the linguistic patterns used subconsciously. Many people use it to produce a recipe for excellence for themselves.

An NLP practitioner will look at your attitude and your use of language. They look at your understanding of relationships and how you build a rapport with people. They also explore the physical and emotional states that are best for accomplishing a task. Effective communication and perception of others and ourselves are key focuses. All these are examined so that strategies for improving understanding, motivation, learning and remembering can be formed.

Many hypnotherapists train in NLP in order to help themselves communicate more effectively with their clients. It also helps their clients communicate more effectively with themselves.

I use neuro-linguistic programming to help people set up for themselves physical and psychological anchors to assist them in challenging situations.

Time Line Therapy™

Time Line Therapy™ is a hypnotic approach that derives from NLP. It is based on the concept that our unconscious mind stores memories in a linear pattern – like a time line – which is essentially a mental photo album of our life. Time Line therapists use a variety of techniques to unconsciously help clients release negative emotions and limiting beliefs linked to past experiences in order to facilitate long-term transformation and better mind-body health. Time Line Therapy™ is considered particularly useful for helping people to overcome symptoms of depression, stress and anxiety, and tends to achieve quick results.

I use time-line therapy to dissolve anger, resentment and feelings of worthlessness. Through a time-line process, a person can uncover and identify his fundamental life operating principle, the core belief that runs your life. Through a time-line process, these core beliefs can be changed into a more workable belief and perception of life.

Does everyone respond to hypnotherapy?

Hypnosis has the capacity to work for the majority of individuals but some are more susceptible to suggestions than others. The most important thing to remember is that you must be fully committed to the process and feel that you can place your trust in your hypnotherapist. It’s also important to keep an open mind, as any scepticism may subconsciously dampen your susceptibility.

** Dr Elize Ellis is a registered hypnotherapist, registered with the Robert Shields Academy for Hypnotherapy and she is a member of MAEPH )Member of the Association of Ethical and Professional Hypnotherapists)

February 24, 2022March 23, 2022

Determine your next move with the Demartini Method?

Are you stuck? Determine your next move! Get out of the maze in your head! Use the Demartini Method to bring you clarity and certainty!

Who is Dr Demartini?

Dr. John Demartini created the Demartini Method. He is a philosopher, human behaviourist and scientist who studied human behaviour for over thirty years. During his studies he delved into all the great philosophies and ancient wisdom in the world. There is therefore nothing “new” in what Dr Demartini teaches. The way in which Dr Demartini put all he has learnt together to allow one to solve almost any relationship problem one might ever face. This makes the Demartini method a one-of-a kind- tool for relationship rescue!

What does the Demartini Method achieve?

The Demartini Method can dissolve any physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, vocational or relationship problem one can have. This is best done with the assistance of a trained Demartini method facilitator. Reduce the stress associated with a specific problem. It helps clarify perspectives and past indifferences. It fosters a process of forgiveness and acceptance. This enables a person to see a whole new reality pertaining to the problem. They transform past traumas! They bring about a state of gratitude for themselves! All of this is possible by patiently, but thoroughly, answering a predetermined set of questions, developed to take you on a journey from perceived injustice to definiteness of purpose.

The Demartini method allows a person to go on with the rest of their lives, without having the past run or ruin their future. They leave empowered, rather than victimised, and are no longer attached or ensnared by the pains and injustices of the past.

What can The Demartini Method do for me?

Are you haunted by a relationship with another person (be it a spouse, sibling, a parent, a colleague) that does not work? Does a misfitted relationship towards your career, your finances, your life purpose haunt you? Do you just drift, not knowing why you are here or what you are supposed to do? Then spending some time looking at your “problems” will be beneficial to you! however, it does not take too long and you do not have to come back for follow-ups for months afterwards. Do it for yourself! Now! Once and for all! Address you infatuations, your resentments, your addictions, your nightmares, your fantasies! The results are everlasting yet depend on your willingness to do the work. Give yourself a chance!

Dr Elize Ellis had been working with the Demartini Method for ten years.

February 8, 2022March 23, 2022

Five love languages, explained

Some people know this and some people do not. There are five ways of how people express love. Understanding the five love languages makes one’s relationship so much more effective, not to mention more fun and rewarding.

The five love languages explained:

Love language 1: Words of affirmation

One of the five love languages is to express love emotionally. This means using words that build up. We all know the saying “The tongue has the power of life and death” and “the tongue is mightier that a sword”. Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as:

“You look sharp in that suit.”

“Do you ever look incredible in that dress! Wow!”

“I really like how you’re always on time to pick me up at work.”

“You can always make me laugh.”

Words of affirmation are one of the five basic love languages. Within that language, however, there are many dialects. All of the dialects have in common the use of words to affirm one’s spouse. It is widely accepted that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals, but not all of them!

Love language 2: Quality time

Some prefer quality time. By “quality time,” I mean giving someone your undivided attention. I don’t mean sitting on the couch watching television together. When you spend time that way, Netflix or HBO has your attention — not your spouse. What I mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking at each other and talking, devices put away, giving each other your undivided attention. It means taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat and looking at each other and talking.

Time is a precious commodity. We all have multiple demands on our time, yet each of us has the exact same hours in a day. We can make the most of those hours by committing some of them to our spouse. If your mate’s primary love language is quality time, she simply wants you, being with her, spending time. I am one of those….

Love Language 3: Receiving gifts

Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving. All five love languages challenge us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest.

A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he was thinking of me,” or, “She remembered me.” You must be thinking of someone to give him or her a gift. The gift itself is a symbol of that thought. It doesn’t matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of him or her. And it is not the thought implanted only in the mind that counts but the thought expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as the expression of love.

But what of the person who says, “I’m not a gift giver. I didn’t receive many gifts growing up. I never learned how to select gifts. It doesn’t come naturally for me.” Congratulations!, You have just made the first discovery in becoming a great lover. You and your spouse speak different love languages. Now that you have made that discovery, get on with the business of learning your second language. If your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts, you can become a proficient gift giver. In fact, it is one of the easiest love languages to learn.

Love language 4: Acts of service

Michelle’s primary love language was what I call “acts of service.” By acts of service, I mean doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things for her.

Consider actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, emptying the dishwasher, vacuuming, changing the baby’s diaper, picking up a prescription, keeping the car in operating condition — they are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love.

A willingness to examine and change stereotypes is necessary in order to express love more effectively. Remember, there are no rewards for maintaining stereotypes, but there are tremendous benefits to meeting the emotional needs of your spouse. If your spouse’s love language is acts of service, then “actions speak louder than words.”

Love language 5: Physical touch

The last one of the five love languages, but definitely not the least, is physical touch. We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Numerous research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies who are held, stroked and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.

Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one’s spouse. For some individuals being touched is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse.

Implicit love touches require little time but much thought, especially if physical touch is not your primary love language and if you did not grow up in a “touching family.” Sitting close to each other as you watch your favourite television program requires no additional time but may communicate your love loudly. Touching your spouse as you walk through the room where he is sitting takes only a moment. Touching each other when you leave the house and again when you return may involve only a brief kiss or hug but will speak volumes to your spouse.

Once you discover that physical touch is the primary love language of your spouse, you are limited only by your imagination on ways to express love.

Where to learn more about the five love languages

When you understand the “language” your spouse or partner speaks when it comes to love, and when you know, in addition to that, what is important to them and how to get your ideas across to them so that they feel loved and appreciated, you are set up for a wonderful relationship!

The HeartCore Transformation Specialists are hosting a fun-filled, informal but deeply insightful workshop called Relationship Revamp! Fix is, make it better, change it, make it magic!

Information in this article courtesy of Dr. Gary Chapman, author of “The Five Love Languages”

January 24, 2022March 23, 2022

Get the Mojo back, FAST!

The middle of January 2022 had come and gone! Many of us now only stare at the New Years resolutions that we made only three weeks ago! Some of us had already given up on this 2022 to-do list. We are no longer inspired to do, be or have something new and exciting in 2022. We had already fallen back into the old mundane groove. Face it! Some of us are no longer inspired with 2022 and the year has just begun! Getting the Mojo back, is crucial!

Don’t’ despair! There are ways in which you can get your Mojo back! Ways to revive the spring in your step! Widen the smile on your face!

Here is how you get your Mojo back!

Address Stress.

Getting the Mojo back means dealing with your stress in an effective way. If you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed, lighten your load. Address the source of the stress before you do anything else. Work, a personal conflict, too many things on your to-do list, or too many demands on your time causes more stress than we would like to acknowledge. Earnestly try to pinpoint the reason for your stress and take action. With the help of a friend, or a HeartCore Transformation Specialist, let some things go or find ways to delegate them. Very few things in life are worth the physical and emotional toll of chronic stress.

Have more fun!

Fun is an essential element of a strong mojo. Right now, go grab a pen and paper. Think about the times in your life when you really had fun, and write them down. Go over the events in your head and mentally re-live these fun and happy times. Circle some of these activities that you might want to enjoy again. Then pick a couple and go do them!

Get your body moving!.

Choose fun activities that allow you to move. Without putting the pressure on yourself to start an exercise routine (which can feel like work and create more stress), think of some ways you can get physical and really enjoy it. I know which one you are thinking of, and by all means, go for it. Otherwise, just play some tennis or basketball. Go dancing with a group of crazy friends. Drive to the mountains and take a hike. Go skinny dipping at night. Get up from your chair and skip around the room or do some jumping jacks. Just get moving and enjoy it.

You can also do this…

Switch off the television!

It’s so easy to plonk in front of the television or the computer when you are feeling low on mojo. Once you are in that chair, it is so hard to get back up. For a few days at least, turn off the telly and computer so that you are forced to do something else. Go surf somewhere other than the internet! Have a conversation with your spouse or children. Clear clutter or organize something. Go buy some flowers and arrange them. Read something inspirational or motivating. Do something, anything, that is positive, productive and joyful. Therefore, no more sitting around and zoning out!

Do Something Adventurous.

Take a risk! Shake your life up a bit. Do something that is totally out of character for you! Do something completely unexpected. Take a road trip to nowhere in particular!! Eat sushi! Go whitewater rafting. Have a trolly race at the mall! Be spontaneous. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Do not worry what other people might think. It is your mojo!

Love Your Body.

When we lose our mojo, we can mistreat our bodies with too much alcohol, fatty/sugary foods, or medications. It’s impossible to get your groove back when your body is sedated with yucky stuff. In the light of this, remember to treat your body with loving kindness. Eat mojo-supporting foods like lots of veggies, fruits and lean meats and less processed, high fat bad-for-you foods. By all means, have a chocolate or a glass of wine, but do not overindulge!

Your Mojo still missing?

These are simple but very effective ways to open the door for your Mojo to step back in again! If this does not help, then DOWNLOAD my comprehensive plan to get your mojo back. See the sidebar for details!

January 19, 2022March 23, 2022

Don’t be limited by your limiting beliefs!

Limiting beliefs are as old as the mountains. Almost every human being harbours a limiting belief at some point in their life.

Celestine Chua, in her blog “7 Limiting beliefs keeping you from living your best life” explains how a a strange limiting belief featured in the middle ages. She says that during the late Medieval period, around the 15th century, a weird psychiatric disorder swept through Europe. Many people believed that they were made of glass. They believed that they would shatter into pieces with even the slightest of contact. This order was later named the “Glass delusion” and was duly recorded in the research journal History of Psychiatry.

It is said that people took great care to change their lifestyle habits. They adjusted their behaviors, and even avoided human contact so that they won’t get “shattered.”

Now, most of you will probably find this glass belief stupid. We obviously know that humans aren’t made of glass. After all, we are in physical contact with people every day — from brushing shoulders on the streets, to shaking hands, to hugging — and we certainly don’t see anyone exploding into smithereens on the street! It would seem silly that people would modify their life over such an irrational and misguided fear.

However, this belief was very real to the European people then. We know the glass belief is false today. Nonetheless, have you ever wondered if you are carrying beliefs that are actually self-limiting — if not false — and are preventing you from living a great life?

The limiting beliefs we live with everyday:

Consider these seemingly benign statements that we say to ourselves on a daily basis:

“You must not tell the truth because you may get judged…”

“I don’t want to get close to this person lest my heart gets broken…”

“I refuse want to ask for what I want because, what if I get rejected?”

“You can’t trust people because you have been betrayed before…”

“I dare not pursue my dreams because I don’t know what I’d do if I fail…”

“They can’t do X because of Y…

“I can’t do A because of B…”

These statements are limiting beliefs that creep into our lives without even being noticed.

The only difference between us and the Medieval Europeans is that their belief was centered around physical contact, while our beliefs are centered around our emotions, relationships, and dreams. Deep down, we’re afraid that once our emotions get hurt, once we experience a heartbreak, or once we face a setback… we’ll shatter and die.

It does not have to be this way! One can change limiting beliefs. It does not have to take years of lots of effort. All it takes is a decision to change. That is what I did! I just wrote down the beliefs that I wanted to change, replaced them with what I would rather want to believe and decided to believe those.

But for many it is not that easy to do it by yourself. Great news! There are people who can help you identify the beliefs that is limiting your progress. They are trained to help you change them into workable beliefs with a process called Psych-K.

January 19, 2022March 23, 2022

Facing Life Challenges!

We all face Life Challenges! Sometimes we wish life was a bit easier. But here is a question for you: Do you want your life to be easy? It’s a simple question, right? And on the surface perhaps you came up with a simple answer — Yes! Of course! If so, congratulations!.

However, you might have had a mixture of other, confusing responses when people talk about life challenges. . Something like, “Oh sure!, everyone wants life to be easy, but that’s not going to happen. After all, life isn’t meant to be easy. Life is a struggle, right? No pain… no gain!. Anything really worth having in life requires hard work, right? Life is filled with struggling and suffering.“ Some will even say ” life challenges is just a part of life”, and smile…

Life does not have to be hard!

Perhaps. But does it need to be that way? Or do we, at times, make life harder than necessary just to justify our existence? How many times lately have your responded to the question, “How are things going?” with, “Oh, I’m working hard!” After all, in today’s society, it’s honorable to work hard.

What if it was possible to work hard but without all the struggling and suffering? What if we could just gently cruise along like a well-oiled machine?

We add so much effort to everything we do by resisting who we are! You might ask: “What can I do to remove and perhaps prevent my gears getting clogged up with the grit and grime of worry, doubt and fear?”

How to face life challenges – eezy-peezy!

I say: “Take out the nitty-gritty of doubt, worry and fear, and replace it with joy, love, gratitude and trust. Would you be willing to be joyous, do only what you truly love, in the process be grateful for who you are and what you have, and trust that the Devine Plan of you life is unfolding perfectly? I don’t know about you but I’m interested in designing my life to be one of ease and flow. Would you like that for yourself too?

If you need to find what is stopping you from having the life you deserve, or why you are sabotaging your success or what it is that would really make you happy, it might be time to see a HeartCore Transformation Specialist. Send me an e-mail so we can get you moving in the direction of your dreams!

January 31, 2017January 31, 2017

Get your relationship working again

It is the month of love…. It is the month to get your relationship working again!!

We have to ask:

Why do so many relationships fail?. Where has the romance gone? Many clever people examined the reasons why relationship fail. They looked at factors like negative emotions and bad communication. But it turns out that not failing is not the same as succeeding when it comes to relationships. Couples who experience a lot of negative interactions are more likely to separate in the first few years of marriage, but couples who don’t experience a lot of positive affect are likely to divorce farther down the road.

So how do you get your relationship working again?

There are FIVE simple things you can do:

Laugh and play together. Play isn’t just for kids. Playfully teasing your partner can bring you closer together. The key word here, however is, “playfully”. If not, the teasing will be counter productive. Couples who laugh often are happier in their relationships. One can also use humour and laughter to help work through a conflict situation. Just make sure that you use humour and laughter to assist and lighten the atmosphere without letting your partner feel ridiculed. Pick a comedy the next time you’re choosing a movie for date night. Give each other playful nicknames. Contrary to general belief, making time to just play puts a naughty twinkle in the eye. It does wonders to get your relationship working again

Try new things together. When you try new activities with your partner, make sure that the activities are novel and exciting. The novelty helps you and your partner create new memories and feel like a team as you try something new. All the excitement of doing something new will make you feel like your relationship is more exciting. Doing new things together help prevent boredom. It brings you closer to your partner. Excitement and variety makes you happier with your relationship, and more satisfied with life in general.

Doing new things does not have to be extreme like white water rafting or abseiling. Be sure to decide and agree on what you will try. I am scared of heights. If my partner forces me to go abseiling with him, it will do more damage to our relationship than good. It also does not have do be something expensive. Try new food. Be tourists in your own city for the day.

Develop gratitude. We all agree that it is important to do special things for your partner sometimes. It is also important to notice and acknowledge when your partner does special things for you. A little “thanks you” can go a long way. When people feel grateful to their partners, both partners end up feeling more connected with each other and more satisfied with the relationship. It’s also important to be grateful for who your partner is as a person. Develop a sense of gratitude for the character traits that make your partner who she is. When you find yourself being irritated instead of happy, imagine what your life would be like if you’d never met your partner. Imagine how you’d feel if something bad happened to them. I know this sounds a bit morbid, but it works!.

Celebrate triumphs. Supporting your partner through tough times is vital. And yes! You guessed it…it is just as important to be supportive when things go right. Couples who celebrate each other’s achievements and triumphs are more satisfied with their relationships. They experience fewer conflicts, have more fun together, and are happier in general. So the next time your partner gets a promotion, meets a new exercise goal, or just has a really great day, make sure to celebrate with them. That will get your relationship working again.. in no time at all!

However, it is not always moonshine and roses. Sometimes we can do everything in our power to try and make our relationship happier but it goes nowhere! Then you need to do the most important thing for your relationship. Such a time is where you have to delve deep and be brave. Sometimes you need to take some time out to take tally of what you have in each other and in the relationship! We occasionally forget why we are together in the first place. At such times we must come to a place where we can again appreciate and value ourselves, our partners and our relationship.

This is when you decide to be serious and get your relationship working again! Decide to

laugh and play together while remembering what brought you together in the first place;
Try new things together like going on a weekend couples retreat;
Take time to “see” each other and be grateful for each other;
Celebrate the triumphs of reconnecting with each other on a deeper level.

ACT NOW! Get your relationship working again!

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